As the holiday weekend approaches and signs of summer start to pop up, it is a great time to reflect on business so far for the year. At almost the half-way point through the year, it is an excellent time to re-evaluate goals and expectations. As you know, I went from being a stay-at-home mom, volunteer, and basically the mastermind behind my house to launching two separate mompreneur driven projects. I began with taking my idea and developing the Braducts…. this led to the beginnings of Back’nGrooveMom. Both are very much in the early stages, but nonetheless, it is still great to re-evaluate at this point.
What is all this business with being back ‘n the groove anyway? What does it all mean? As women, as moms, & as spouses/partners, how do we define a space for us? How do we know when that space is in our groove? Sometimes, as moms, we spend too long in one space, and we need to find our groove in a new space – whatever that is…it is a new realm where we feel great…maybe even groovy.
Whether we work outside the home, inside the home, or stay-at-home, the life cycle is continually on the move for moms. We are masters of multi-tasking and our skill-set is constantly being refined and updated NO matter what we do professionally or personally. I remember a few years ago, over cupcakes and coffee, a good friend told me she was going back to work part-time. It was the right time for her and she discovered her groove excellently! I always admire how she makes it all happen….kids, husband, work, fitness, time for friends. A constant reminder to me and all of us that life is fluid in nature, and with each phase, we redefine the groove.
I have been wanting to write this post for sometime….it is a post that I like to think of “Half-Ass is OK.” What does that mean? “Half-Ass” is an expression that a good friend of mine who should remain nameless encourages me to subscribe to related to things that do not really matter in the whole scheme of life. Take for example, making the beds. Over the last year or so, I have been encouraging my boys to make their own beds in the morning, and then after they would leave their room….I would sneak into their room and remake the bed a little more neatly. GUILTY! Not only is this a huge waste of my time, but really “Who cares?” Certainly my boys do not care, and if you visit me – are you really going to inspect my boys’ room?
Last week, I revealed my ups and downs of going from stay-at-home mom to woman entrepreneur. Although mostly subtle, there are definite differences in life before and after Back’NGrooveMom. One exercise that I suggest to budding mompreneurs (whether they were SAHM’s or in a different job) is to make a list of what they could and could not surrender from life as they knew it.
For me, and something I think all moms should consider, exercise is not something that I could take out of my schedule. I could give up balling socks or even cooking dinner every night (my boys LOVE Subway), but exercise was key to my overall performance and health. I know that exercise is time-consuming and hard to fit in, but check out my video on ways to make sure you fit exercise in your busy life!
Yesterday was Sunday and the weather was GORGEOUS! The whole family exercised – walked, rode bikes, and played basketball in the yard – what a difference it made (even with the dogs). By evening, all of us felt so great AND I know that we will get a fabulous night’s sleep which will lead to an extremely productive tomorrow!
Try my tips AND please leave any tips on fitting exercise in to our busy routines below … Sharing healthy mom tips is fabulous! Rachel
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Yesterday I thought it was grilled cheese day at school, and I sent my 7-year-old to school without a lunch.
Last night I went to brush my teeth, and we were out of adult toothpaste (kid’s toothpaste is awful).
Yesterday I skipped my workout, so I could enjoy a haircut in the middle of the day.
Last night I went to sleep with the dishwasher clean and full AND dirty glasses in the sink.
After a long, hard winter that included my mom having major back surgery, losing my father-in-law, ongoing struggles with work/life balance, & a lot of cold weather, I really needed a little lift in my spirits. Hence the carb overload this morning.
I must say that my day yesterday was a huge boost! Yesterday was a simple day, yet just what the doctor ordered for me. Sometimes all we need is a little regular routine to feel back in the groove. When life gets too hectic, and we stray too far from our sense of balance…..a little sense of “normalcy” (what is that?) is the glue that puts it all back in order. Nothing super special, just good old-fashioned life.
**Warning — Bitch Alert! (written late last night)
This afternoon I took a little “me” break, and I got a pedicure. It was such a nice hour: Quiet, Calm, Relaxing, and a Beautiful Outcome to boot. After that, it was pretty much a downward spiral. The rain was pouring down at school pick-up, and my son came out to the car and informed me that he hit his head on the concrete at recess. That was just the beginning. There was homework, dogs to feed, snacks flying everywhere, a report about some shenanigans at school, and my younger son realizing that he misplaced his itouch.
At this point, we are all in a frenzy looking for the itouch, talking about behavior expectations at school, trying to reach our cousin who is a pediatrician on the head smacking the concrete, and making our way through the 2nd grade spelling list. This is when announcing that everyone was putting on their pj’s, having dinner, and waiting for bedtime was appropriate. BUT, noooooooo…..I promised the boys that we would go see our local high school basketball team in round 2 of the state playoffs (45 minutes each way from our house).
On most days I am a mompreneur until 4 p.m., and then I am a basketball mom until bedtime when I become a mompreneur again. Sort of like Cinderella changes at midnight, I turn into a basketball mom as soon as my boys finish school. I do not want to change this – I love hanging at the gym, watching the boys practice, and I even love that I do nothing else than watch basketball on the weekends – usually 6 games/weekend. These are memories and time with my boys that will be with me long after I am no longer needed in the role of basketball mom.
The other night, we were at a championship game (which is funny – an 11 & 12-year-old championship game, but very serious). My son’s team started the game off faced with a big challenge. What was the challenge? Their team only had a total of 6 players with one on crutches with a broken foot, and then a 2nd player showed up on crutches to the game. Now, they were down to 4 active players. The refs made the decision for the two teams to play 4 on 4 (whew). With two of the team’s strongest rebounders on the bench, the team still managed to gain a little lead and stay there the whole game. With a few minutes left, a player on my son’s team fouled out AND now they had to play 3 on 4 with a narrow lead. The exciting news is that my son’s team WON even under crazy reconfiguring and challenges.
What is the overall point of this story? While my son and his teammates are all good little players, the two teenager coaches really led the team to their victory. Over a celebratory ice cream, my son recounted to me all the little details that his coaches filtered to the team. The coaches had a game plan mapped out as to how they were going to face the challenges. Again, what is the point? The point is that being a mompreneur has many similarities to this situation of these teenage coaches and their dwindling team of active players and very narrow lead.
Last week I put myself on video asking for mompreneur questions….thanks to everyone for watching me on the big screen (ugh) and commenting. I had one hell of a roller coaster week, and I thought that I would incorporate some of that into the answers. So, you want to be a mompreneur? – Here you go!
When I posted the video last Monday, there was no school for President’s Day. This was an expected day off, and I was planning on being with the boys. In fact, they each had a friend join us and we went to a movie fundraiser sponsored by a local kid. We even managed to sneak in a game of Monopoly,
and then it started to SNOW! I would say that this was where the roller coaster ride started. We woke up on Tuesday morning to 8 inches of snow and of course, NO SCHOOL!