A few weeks ago I wrote about paying it forward, and I proposed that all of you should make your own pay it forward list. Well, my list keeps growing, and I keep challenging myself to think of something really creative to do with it (probably a vlog is best — which is why I more than likely keep putting it off). As the list keeps accumulating, it occurs to me that I really have not one but two pay it forward lists. A personal and professional one….yes, there is some overlap, but really there is room for two lists. While the professional pay it forward list continues to grow, today is a toast to the personal side.
In October, 2010, I basically woke up deciding to chase a dream, become a mompreneur, take a spark of an idea to market, and blog about the entire journey. This came as a BIG SHOCK to my family and friends. My family never saw me being an entrepreneur (I was a social worker turned stay-at-home-mom for 10 years) let alone many of them never heard of a blog! I am sure that my friends were equally surprised at my decision to follow an idea to market, or that I even had an idea that I wanted to bring to fruition. Needless to say, there is a group of peeps that jumped on board and amazingly supported me. That is how I came up with the idea for pay it forward part 1&1/2. This seemed logical to me since pay it forward part 2 is a list of those that have mentored and helped me, and in between the mentors and me is my first line of defense — friends and fam.
Oh….the packing dilemma! I am leaving tomorrow for Spark and Hustle with Tory Johnson in L.A. I also get to spend some time with two great girlfriends in the City of Angels. I am looking forward to this trip on so many levels….too many to even mention. I have babysitters and dog walkers lined up to help the big guy with the 2 legged kids and the 4 legged ones. I have a visiting nurse scheduled to help with my mom after her surgery. Now, it is time for me to ditch my UGGs (required pedi) and head out to Southern California, and I have packed and unpacked three times today. Oh….the packing dilemma!
I have not been away by myself in a long time, and I want to make the most of every moment! Of course, I want to dress perfectly for each one of those moments. Instructions were business casual for day and fun for evening. Being from Pittsburgh, I am wondering if business casual and fun mean something different in Cali? So, I just keep adding and subtracting from the suitcase (actually mostly adding more).
There is also the issue of being true to my style…my brand. Not the actual label brand, but my Backngruv-Brand. I feel like my overall style should exude getting my ass back in the groove. Not to mention, I am working on lingerie-related products. One person suggested I should show a little bra – I don’t think so! BUT, I do think that I live and breathe my brand. So, the skinny camo pants are staying in the suitcase, but my bra will remain under my shirt.
(I am packing the Incredible Demi Racerback Bra by V.S. Which is Bckngruv-Recommended).
The pile is growing – slacks, jeans, sweater dress, tights, boots, my workout gear, and of course – a Steelers jersey to travel home in on Super Bowl Sunday! Now, that I am opening up the suitcase for the 4th time, I face a weather dilemma! Winter storms throughout the midwest are screwing up flights all over, so rather than obsessing over weather, I will probably pack and unpack for a 5th time.
What is your best packing suggestion?
I’ve developed a new philosophy… I only dread one day at a time. ~Charlie Brown by Charles Schulz
A few weeks ago, I had some time to sit down with a mom-to-be, Jenny, and chat about what is on her mind. Due in April, this mom-to-be expressed two emotions – anxiety and excitement. The two feelings were very intertwined – there was excitement over the anxiety and anxiety over the excitement. Most of Jenny’s emotions center around the “unknown.” She was both nervous and intrigued (a bit) about the unknown.
Obviously, the baby-to-be would change Jenny and her husband’s lives. It is impossible for them to imagine what will happen to their current routine, existence, and established patterns. I did not want to spoil the surprise for Jenny, and it sort of is unofficial “mom code” to not tell. If we told new moms what to expect, it would strip them of all the crazy emotions that we went through. That would be unfair!
All this fear, anxiety, and excitement got me thinking……are these themes that cycle through a woman’s lifetime? I am definitely experiencing high anxiety over my entrepreneurial vision; forging ahead with my career while still doing everything I did before (nuts); leaving the fam to go to Spark and Hustle in L.A. for a few days; my mom’s recent surgery and ever-present recuperation; and who can forget how my week will go off its chartered path because of the impending snowstorm. Don’t get me wrong – there is definitely some thrill at the core of this, but right now it is manifesting itself as anxiety.
**editor’s note – I have a background in clinical social work, so every now and again – I have to throw out a term like “manifesting.”
Bckngruv-Readers – I am a planner (I know – no surprise to any of you). I like to map everything out, make lists, deadlines, timelines, and I could go on and on. Sometimes, this does not work out. There are times when everything is just too chaotic, to make exact flight plans (I like traffic metaphors – read this for more). However, it occurs to me that during these particular times when life is crazy and chaotic and so much is unknown, I tend to accomplish a great deal. I run around like a hurricane and just start cramming everything in to the 23 & 1/2 hours of the day that I have.
After a week that included one snow day, one 2 hour weather-related delay, my crazy attempt at a vlog, a mostly non productive Friday, and yes – no school this coming Monday…I felt the need to address the snow day discussion again. I will not spend a lot more time on it — just a few more thoughts. By the way, Backngroove Readers — did you ever notice that my background pic is the ocean? Guess what? I do not like snow! I know crazy…I should move, but my mom would miss me too much (and that is a blog for a whole different day). My groove was totally off track this week.
First of all, I am not the first to say this, but what is with the snow delay? We did not have snow delays growing up (I know – my grandmother used to walk miles to school), but honestly the delays are ridiculous. Not ridiculous because the school wants children to safely travel to and from school, BUT ridiculous because why is it not a priority for cities, townships, communities to make certain that roads are clear so buses and cars can take kids to school on time. As far as the cold weather goes — I cannot even go there because in reality how much does it warm up between 7 & 9 a.m.? Not much.