Happy Monday, Back’nGroovers! I know you are waiting for me to write about my past weekend in a cabin. It is the obvious….. Well, I am going to write about it a bit except in the unexpected way. We had a great time – our family for 2 days in a cabin at the overnight camp where my boys attend.
When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade (original quote by someone’s grandma?) ……
……An absolute favorite saying of mine. I have always tried to apply these words to my life no matter whether it was something little or big. When the boys were infants, and I had a LONG day that did not allow me to shower or eat a whole meal or make a phone call, I took pleasure in a hot bubble-bath after I got the boys to sleep. When my grandmother died, I survived devastation when a few days later, I found out she would have a namesake when I discovered I was pregnant. Today, I was really going back and forth with what I should write on the blog, AND then my day changed because my husband forgot to send my son to school with a lunch (on the last day of school).
As the holiday weekend approaches and signs of summer start to pop up, it is a great time to reflect on business so far for the year. At almost the half-way point through the year, it is an excellent time to re-evaluate goals and expectations. As you know, I went from being a stay-at-home mom, volunteer, and basically the mastermind behind my house to launching two separate mompreneur driven projects. I began with taking my idea and developing the Braducts…. this led to the beginnings of Back’nGrooveMom. Both are very much in the early stages, but nonetheless, it is still great to re-evaluate at this point.
What is all this business with being back ‘n the groove anyway? What does it all mean? As women, as moms, & as spouses/partners, how do we define a space for us? How do we know when that space is in our groove? Sometimes, as moms, we spend too long in one space, and we need to find our groove in a new space – whatever that is…it is a new realm where we feel great…maybe even groovy.
Whether we work outside the home, inside the home, or stay-at-home, the life cycle is continually on the move for moms. We are masters of multi-tasking and our skill-set is constantly being refined and updated NO matter what we do professionally or personally. I remember a few years ago, over cupcakes and coffee, a good friend told me she was going back to work part-time. It was the right time for her and she discovered her groove excellently! I always admire how she makes it all happen….kids, husband, work, fitness, time for friends. A constant reminder to me and all of us that life is fluid in nature, and with each phase, we redefine the groove.
I have been wanting to write this post for sometime….it is a post that I like to think of “Half-Ass is OK.” What does that mean? “Half-Ass” is an expression that a good friend of mine who should remain nameless encourages me to subscribe to related to things that do not really matter in the whole scheme of life. Take for example, making the beds. Over the last year or so, I have been encouraging my boys to make their own beds in the morning, and then after they would leave their room….I would sneak into their room and remake the bed a little more neatly. GUILTY! Not only is this a huge waste of my time, but really “Who cares?” Certainly my boys do not care, and if you visit me – are you really going to inspect my boys’ room?
It has been a roller coaster of a winter that began with my mom having major back surgery and ended with my father-in-law passing. I do not want to make this post all about the ups and downs of my life over the last few months, but rather about where my life will take me now. Beyond still supporting my mom, being there for my kids, and lending a shoulder for my mother-in-law to cry on…..I also really need to get my ass in gear with my mompreneur travels. Throughout the winter, I felt proud that I was still continuing to check items off my to-do list while dealing with the swell of personal crises surrounding me. Now that spring has sprung (I think – it is snowing a bit today), I am ready to forge ahead with a new attitude. Just like the sun will be shining daily (maybe), I plan to sparkle again in my pursuits.
Last Friday, our country woke up to the devastating news of the tragic earthquake and tsunami in Japan. For me, it was hard to concentrate on anything but the media coverage of this terrible natural disaster, and hoping and praying for the safety of those affected. It is in times like these, that we are thankful for the little things in life, and take pleasure in what we have around us. I took comfort in my 2 boys and the opportunities that are in front of them. The boys’ creativity, vibrancy, and outlook on the world is so reassuring. I decided to reflect a bit on these 2 mini-entrepreneurs.
A few years back when my older son was in kindergarten, I had a good friend that worked at his school. This friend lived right near a place that sold my fave low-fat brownies (I know – they were probably 1000 calories a piece, but that is another blog). It was a great set-up: my friend would get a week’s supply of low-fat brownies, put them in my son’s backpack at school, and I would have my most indulgent nighttime snack all week-long. It was my own personal low-fat brownie underground operation. UNTIL, one day in the carpool lane, I received a phone call from another mom saying she owed me money for the chocolate treat?!?!? I had NO idea what she was talking about until I pulled up further in line and my son got in the car.
Guess What? My son, who was 6 years old at the time, decided to turn the carpool waiting area into an entrepreneurial venture. He opened up the packs of brownies (2 per pack) and sold 1 brownie for a dollar each! At the time, there were still vending machines at school. so some kids had money for snacks, and for a few close friends, he issued credit. When I suggested that he return the money, he said “No Way!” He argued that the kids had their brownie and ate it, and it was only fair he keep the money. What he did not account for was that I was his financial backer with the brownies, and he would have to take the initial investment out of the gross (his first lesson in biz). This was the day when I realized that I was dealing with a kidpreneur.
My older son is lucky to have a little brother that is never afraid to speak his mind, thinks out of the box, and acts as a “profit coach” of sorts. Together, the two boys make up a great pair – one is very serious and “crosses every T and dots every I”, and the other brings the ingenuity and creative thinking. They appear to be on equal footing in their biz ventures because each one holds a different skill set, and they realize that! This is another valuable lesson in business for them – know your strengths and weaknesses and align yourself with someone who can fill your gaps.