When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade (original quote by someone’s grandma?) ……
……An absolute favorite saying of mine. I have always tried to apply these words to my life no matter whether it was something little or big. When the boys were infants, and I had a LONG day that did not allow me to shower or eat a whole meal or make a phone call, I took pleasure in a hot bubble-bath after I got the boys to sleep. When my grandmother died, I survived devastation when a few days later, I found out she would have a namesake when I discovered I was pregnant. Today, I was really going back and forth with what I should write on the blog, AND then my day changed because my husband forgot to send my son to school with a lunch (on the last day of school).
Summer is here! I hope that you all had a wonderful Memorial Day Weekend. Our weekend flew by — between swimming, eating ice cream, a family wedding, and pool party/cookout in West Virginia, I barely had time to breathe. It was fun while it lasted, but I woke up this morning on Tuesday with a giant sense of urgency. You see – my boys only have FIVE more days of school and that means that I have a lot to do in FIVE days!
The sun shines, the air is warm, and we do not have to BUNDLE in huge winter coats. Summer also creates chaos because school is out and if you have school-age kids, schedules drastically change. As moms (and dads) we scramble to figure out what out kids will do during the summer months, so we can eek out a little work.
As the holiday weekend approaches and signs of summer start to pop up, it is a great time to reflect on business so far for the year. At almost the half-way point through the year, it is an excellent time to re-evaluate goals and expectations. As you know, I went from being a stay-at-home mom, volunteer, and basically the mastermind behind my house to launching two separate mompreneur driven projects. I began with taking my idea and developing the Braducts…. this led to the beginnings of Back’nGrooveMom. Both are very much in the early stages, but nonetheless, it is still great to re-evaluate at this point.
What is all this business with being back ‘n the groove anyway? What does it all mean? As women, as moms, & as spouses/partners, how do we define a space for us? How do we know when that space is in our groove? Sometimes, as moms, we spend too long in one space, and we need to find our groove in a new space – whatever that is…it is a new realm where we feel great…maybe even groovy.
Whether we work outside the home, inside the home, or stay-at-home, the life cycle is continually on the move for moms. We are masters of multi-tasking and our skill-set is constantly being refined and updated NO matter what we do professionally or personally. I remember a few years ago, over cupcakes and coffee, a good friend told me she was going back to work part-time. It was the right time for her and she discovered her groove excellently! I always admire how she makes it all happen….kids, husband, work, fitness, time for friends. A constant reminder to me and all of us that life is fluid in nature, and with each phase, we redefine the groove.
I really struggled with how to purposely represent Mother’s Day here at Back’NGrooveMom. I thought to make a video (even made a quickie that turned out terrible and ended in the virtual trash can); then, I was going to write about my mom (who we already know is awesome and truly getting her back in the groove); there was a brief moment that I considered a little post on my new reading glasses and did they make me an old mom?; next, I thought about you, all my great mom readers and how I could honor you; finally, I went to yoga to clear my head…..AND, when I left class, I learned of a terrible tragedy.
Here on Back’NGrooveMom, I am always open and honest with you, my readers, regarding my transition and the absolute craziness of being a mom and a mompreneur. As I embark on some changes and additions on the site, I wanted to share a really special story with you all. Back’NGrooveMom is a place for all moms who need to jump-start their groove whether it be right after baby #1 or after years of staying-at-home.
Having a baby, becoming a mom, and balancing it all with a career is an extremely difficult task on its own. Coupled with postpartum depression, all of the aforementioned can seem nearly impossible. We often keep postpartum depression very quiet and private, but today’s featured mom bravely describes her transition with baby #2, postpartum depression, starting her own business while working, and finding her groove all over again!
Before Oprah picked the Allure of the Seas as one of her favorites, I already booked a week onboard. Nothing against Oprah (who doesn’t love O?), but I knew the Allure was going to be fabulous. I put my deposit down when it was still just a sketch of a ship! After waiting a year to set sail, my family & I boarded the ship last week for a week of sun, fun, and of course, memories (MOM – I do not want to take one more picture).
The week went like lightning, and we are back home to grey skies and rain. I shut my window blind so I do not have to see the weather, and I am so excited to share my experience with you! The week was extra memorable for me because I officially ditched my cel phone except for my once-a-day email check. This was an awesome way to enjoy spring break with my family (a separate blog post on the ups and downs of unplugging to follow). Although, I should note that if you need to be connected on the Allure – it is no problem, mon! There is wi-fi available to purchase and cel signal (check with your carrier for rates). Enough with that….Without waiting anymore, onto our week on the Allure of the Seas.
Last week, I revealed my ups and downs of going from stay-at-home mom to woman entrepreneur. Although mostly subtle, there are definite differences in life before and after Back’NGrooveMom. One exercise that I suggest to budding mompreneurs (whether they were SAHM’s or in a different job) is to make a list of what they could and could not surrender from life as they knew it.
For me, and something I think all moms should consider, exercise is not something that I could take out of my schedule. I could give up balling socks or even cooking dinner every night (my boys LOVE Subway), but exercise was key to my overall performance and health. I know that exercise is time-consuming and hard to fit in, but check out my video on ways to make sure you fit exercise in your busy life!
Yesterday was Sunday and the weather was GORGEOUS! The whole family exercised – walked, rode bikes, and played basketball in the yard – what a difference it made (even with the dogs). By evening, all of us felt so great AND I know that we will get a fabulous night’s sleep which will lead to an extremely productive tomorrow!
Try my tips AND please leave any tips on fitting exercise in to our busy routines below … Sharing healthy mom tips is fabulous! Rachel
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Yesterday I thought it was grilled cheese day at school, and I sent my 7-year-old to school without a lunch.
Last night I went to brush my teeth, and we were out of adult toothpaste (kid’s toothpaste is awful).
Yesterday I skipped my workout, so I could enjoy a haircut in the middle of the day.
Last night I went to sleep with the dishwasher clean and full AND dirty glasses in the sink.
After a long, hard winter that included my mom having major back surgery, losing my father-in-law, ongoing struggles with work/life balance, & a lot of cold weather, I really needed a little lift in my spirits. Hence the carb overload this morning.
I must say that my day yesterday was a huge boost! Yesterday was a simple day, yet just what the doctor ordered for me. Sometimes all we need is a little regular routine to feel back in the groove. When life gets too hectic, and we stray too far from our sense of balance…..a little sense of “normalcy” (what is that?) is the glue that puts it all back in order. Nothing super special, just good old-fashioned life.