Here on Back’NGrooveMom, I am always open and honest with you, my readers, regarding my transition and the absolute craziness of being a mom and a mompreneur. As I embark on some changes and additions on the site, I wanted to share a really special story with you all. Back’NGrooveMom is a place for all moms who need to jump-start their groove whether it be right after baby #1 or after years of staying-at-home.
Having a baby, becoming a mom, and balancing it all with a career is an extremely difficult task on its own. Coupled with postpartum depression, all of the aforementioned can seem nearly impossible. We often keep postpartum depression very quiet and private, but today’s featured mom bravely describes her transition with baby #2, postpartum depression, starting her own business while working, and finding her groove all over again!
Katy Perry may be a Firework, but I am a SPARKLER! That’s right – a SPARKLER!
If you have been following me over the last few months, you know that attending SPARK AND HUSTLE with Tory Johnson was on my agenda. Well, I came, I went, I heard, I absorbed, I networked, and I am ready to SPARKLE!
By now you probably know that I am a big fan of StartupNation. Why? I am not being compensated by them, endorsed by them, or really connected to them in any way. So, why do I continually promote them? Simply, because it works! When an entrepreneur – either new or seasoned – turns to StartupNation for tips, the advice is there! So much information is available and you do not feel like there is a “catch.” It is a great site to look for answers and hook up with other start-up business owners. This piece is especially invaluable for mompreneurs.
Often, if a mom has either been home for a few years or is moving from the traditional workplace to being a mompreneur….capital and advice could be limited. Hiring a professional coach or advisor at that point may not be a reality, and StartupNation can help her gain knowledge and connect with others. The website provides easy access for moms (and all start-up business owners) to move forward with their dreams.
Oh….the packing dilemma! I am leaving tomorrow for Spark and Hustle with Tory Johnson in L.A. I also get to spend some time with two great girlfriends in the City of Angels. I am looking forward to this trip on so many levels….too many to even mention. I have babysitters and dog walkers lined up to help the big guy with the 2 legged kids and the 4 legged ones. I have a visiting nurse scheduled to help with my mom after her surgery. Now, it is time for me to ditch my UGGs (required pedi) and head out to Southern California, and I have packed and unpacked three times today. Oh….the packing dilemma!
I have not been away by myself in a long time, and I want to make the most of every moment! Of course, I want to dress perfectly for each one of those moments. Instructions were business casual for day and fun for evening. Being from Pittsburgh, I am wondering if business casual and fun mean something different in Cali? So, I just keep adding and subtracting from the suitcase (actually mostly adding more).
There is also the issue of being true to my style…my brand. Not the actual label brand, but my Backngruv-Brand. I feel like my overall style should exude getting my ass back in the groove. Not to mention, I am working on lingerie-related products. One person suggested I should show a little bra – I don’t think so! BUT, I do think that I live and breathe my brand. So, the skinny camo pants are staying in the suitcase, but my bra will remain under my shirt.
(I am packing the Incredible Demi Racerback Bra by V.S. Which is Bckngruv-Recommended).
The pile is growing – slacks, jeans, sweater dress, tights, boots, my workout gear, and of course – a Steelers jersey to travel home in on Super Bowl Sunday! Now, that I am opening up the suitcase for the 4th time, I face a weather dilemma! Winter storms throughout the midwest are screwing up flights all over, so rather than obsessing over weather, I will probably pack and unpack for a 5th time.
What is your best packing suggestion?
I’ve developed a new philosophy… I only dread one day at a time. ~Charlie Brown by Charles Schulz
A few weeks ago, I had some time to sit down with a mom-to-be, Jenny, and chat about what is on her mind. Due in April, this mom-to-be expressed two emotions – anxiety and excitement. The two feelings were very intertwined – there was excitement over the anxiety and anxiety over the excitement. Most of Jenny’s emotions center around the “unknown.” She was both nervous and intrigued (a bit) about the unknown.
Obviously, the baby-to-be would change Jenny and her husband’s lives. It is impossible for them to imagine what will happen to their current routine, existence, and established patterns. I did not want to spoil the surprise for Jenny, and it sort of is unofficial “mom code” to not tell. If we told new moms what to expect, it would strip them of all the crazy emotions that we went through. That would be unfair!
All this fear, anxiety, and excitement got me thinking……are these themes that cycle through a woman’s lifetime? I am definitely experiencing high anxiety over my entrepreneurial vision; forging ahead with my career while still doing everything I did before (nuts); leaving the fam to go to Spark and Hustle in L.A. for a few days; my mom’s recent surgery and ever-present recuperation; and who can forget how my week will go off its chartered path because of the impending snowstorm. Don’t get me wrong – there is definitely some thrill at the core of this, but right now it is manifesting itself as anxiety.
**editor’s note – I have a background in clinical social work, so every now and again – I have to throw out a term like “manifesting.”
Bckngruv-Readers – I am a planner (I know – no surprise to any of you). I like to map everything out, make lists, deadlines, timelines, and I could go on and on. Sometimes, this does not work out. There are times when everything is just too chaotic, to make exact flight plans (I like traffic metaphors – read this for more). However, it occurs to me that during these particular times when life is crazy and chaotic and so much is unknown, I tend to accomplish a great deal. I run around like a hurricane and just start cramming everything in to the 23 & 1/2 hours of the day that I have.
Pay it forward is a phrase that we hear quite a bit, but I take it very seriously in business AND life. I am a big believer in “treating others in a way that you want treated” because life does come full circle. I have talked about this in relationship to moms many times before. You may remember my crazy snow day vlog in which I suggest that moms offer to help one another when school cancels due to weather. In fact, recently, another friend and I set up a schedule for snow delays and helping one another with the kids. This is a result of Pay it Forward – for years, this mom and I have just stepped in and helped one another. Now, we felt dedicated to make a regular schedule!
As I prepare to launch my braduct in the coming year, I am very aware of other businesses and how they treat their customers. I am making notes of how I want to handle my business matters in a Pay it Forward manner. I do not have to explain the details of treating customers the same way you want treated – we all have had bad retail experiences.
I still continually question if we, women, can really advocate, support, and mentor one another in the workplace? That is something that I will continue to explore with my BCKNGRUV-moms as time goes on….This week, I have decided to have faith in this issue!
When I started writing the Backngroovemom Blog, I was not sure what direction it would take (I know – red flag). Now that the future of Backngroovemom is becoming clearer (very exciting details at a further date), the one point that remains clear to me is Backngroovemom is/was not a place for hubby obsessing. By hubby obsessing, I mean gushy, mushy, cutesy anecdotes about the hubs AND no hubby bashing. I have never been one for anything cutesy and this was a blog about mommies getting their groove back, therefore hubby bashing just seemed counterproductive.
All this being said, I could not help but to wonder this weekend “Does Backngroovemom equal Out-of-Groove-Dad”? I decided to spend some time thinking about this question and blogging my thoughts. For the small group of you who know my hubby, you know that he does his absolute best to stay out of social media…..could be interesting! When googling out-of-groove, I did not know whether I would find my husband’s picture (turns out that I did NOT), but I did come across this funny video of the Penguins of Madagascar being “out of groove”. Watch this – I will explain later…..
After a week that included one snow day, one 2 hour weather-related delay, my crazy attempt at a vlog, a mostly non productive Friday, and yes – no school this coming Monday…I felt the need to address the snow day discussion again. I will not spend a lot more time on it — just a few more thoughts. By the way, Backngroove Readers — did you ever notice that my background pic is the ocean? Guess what? I do not like snow! I know crazy…I should move, but my mom would miss me too much (and that is a blog for a whole different day). My groove was totally off track this week.
First of all, I am not the first to say this, but what is with the snow delay? We did not have snow delays growing up (I know – my grandmother used to walk miles to school), but honestly the delays are ridiculous. Not ridiculous because the school wants children to safely travel to and from school, BUT ridiculous because why is it not a priority for cities, townships, communities to make certain that roads are clear so buses and cars can take kids to school on time. As far as the cold weather goes — I cannot even go there because in reality how much does it warm up between 7 & 9 a.m.? Not much.