Here on Back’NGrooveMom, I am always open and honest with you, my readers, regarding my transition and the absolute craziness of being a mom and a mompreneur. As I embark on some changes and additions on the site, I wanted to share a really special story with you all. Back’NGrooveMom is a place for all moms who need to jump-start their groove whether it be right after baby #1 or after years of staying-at-home.
Having a baby, becoming a mom, and balancing it all with a career is an extremely difficult task on its own. Coupled with postpartum depression, all of the aforementioned can seem nearly impossible. We often keep postpartum depression very quiet and private, but today’s featured mom bravely describes her transition with baby #2, postpartum depression, starting her own business while working, and finding her groove all over again!
Did you ever meet someone and just know that meeting them was a life-changing event? A few months ago, I met Vivian Tenorio at Spark & Hustle. Upon meeting Vivian, I knew that my life was enhanced in a new way. Why? Determined and bright, Vivian is a breath of fresh air from the norm, and a woman I am happy to consider a role model. Vivian has set a new standard for being a woman entrepreneur/mompreneur, developing a delicious product, AND placing that product on shelves. Vivian is approachable, real, and compassionate towards budding mompreneurs; truly someone to be admired.
Vivian recently published a book, From Pink Slip to Product Launch in a Weak Economy. Vivian’s story of determination and success as a woman entrepreneur is a must read for any woman with dreams of starting a business of her own. The book is an amazingly quick read that immediately grabs your attention. Vivian’s story is riveting from the beginning to where she is now, which is by no means the end. Vivian is going to go much further than she already has travelled.
It has been a roller coaster of a winter that began with my mom having major back surgery and ended with my father-in-law passing. I do not want to make this post all about the ups and downs of my life over the last few months, but rather about where my life will take me now. Beyond still supporting my mom, being there for my kids, and lending a shoulder for my mother-in-law to cry on…..I also really need to get my ass in gear with my mompreneur travels. Throughout the winter, I felt proud that I was still continuing to check items off my to-do list while dealing with the swell of personal crises surrounding me. Now that spring has sprung (I think – it is snowing a bit today), I am ready to forge ahead with a new attitude. Just like the sun will be shining daily (maybe), I plan to sparkle again in my pursuits.
On most days I am a mompreneur until 4 p.m., and then I am a basketball mom until bedtime when I become a mompreneur again. Sort of like Cinderella changes at midnight, I turn into a basketball mom as soon as my boys finish school. I do not want to change this – I love hanging at the gym, watching the boys practice, and I even love that I do nothing else than watch basketball on the weekends – usually 6 games/weekend. These are memories and time with my boys that will be with me long after I am no longer needed in the role of basketball mom.
The other night, we were at a championship game (which is funny – an 11 & 12-year-old championship game, but very serious). My son’s team started the game off faced with a big challenge. What was the challenge? Their team only had a total of 6 players with one on crutches with a broken foot, and then a 2nd player showed up on crutches to the game. Now, they were down to 4 active players. The refs made the decision for the two teams to play 4 on 4 (whew). With two of the team’s strongest rebounders on the bench, the team still managed to gain a little lead and stay there the whole game. With a few minutes left, a player on my son’s team fouled out AND now they had to play 3 on 4 with a narrow lead. The exciting news is that my son’s team WON even under crazy reconfiguring and challenges.
What is the overall point of this story? While my son and his teammates are all good little players, the two teenager coaches really led the team to their victory. Over a celebratory ice cream, my son recounted to me all the little details that his coaches filtered to the team. The coaches had a game plan mapped out as to how they were going to face the challenges. Again, what is the point? The point is that being a mompreneur has many similarities to this situation of these teenage coaches and their dwindling team of active players and very narrow lead.
I have not recorded a Bckngruv-video in a while, so I thought that I would start this week off with one. This past week and the ones coming up, are what I call the “down and dirty” part of being a mompreneur. Nothing glamorous just a lot of meetings, research, phone calls, and general business planning. I share some of these details with you in the video, and propose an opportunity for us to share together — check it out!
editor’s note: still working out all the technical difficulties and not saying “so” every other sentence, but all in all – better than last vlog.
Katy Perry may be a Firework, but I am a SPARKLER! That’s right – a SPARKLER!
If you have been following me over the last few months, you know that attending SPARK AND HUSTLE with Tory Johnson was on my agenda. Well, I came, I went, I heard, I absorbed, I networked, and I am ready to SPARKLE!
By now you probably know that I am a big fan of StartupNation. Why? I am not being compensated by them, endorsed by them, or really connected to them in any way. So, why do I continually promote them? Simply, because it works! When an entrepreneur – either new or seasoned – turns to StartupNation for tips, the advice is there! So much information is available and you do not feel like there is a “catch.” It is a great site to look for answers and hook up with other start-up business owners. This piece is especially invaluable for mompreneurs.
Often, if a mom has either been home for a few years or is moving from the traditional workplace to being a mompreneur….capital and advice could be limited. Hiring a professional coach or advisor at that point may not be a reality, and StartupNation can help her gain knowledge and connect with others. The website provides easy access for moms (and all start-up business owners) to move forward with their dreams.
Pay it forward is a phrase that we hear quite a bit, but I take it very seriously in business AND life. I am a big believer in “treating others in a way that you want treated” because life does come full circle. I have talked about this in relationship to moms many times before. You may remember my crazy snow day vlog in which I suggest that moms offer to help one another when school cancels due to weather. In fact, recently, another friend and I set up a schedule for snow delays and helping one another with the kids. This is a result of Pay it Forward – for years, this mom and I have just stepped in and helped one another. Now, we felt dedicated to make a regular schedule!
As I prepare to launch my braduct in the coming year, I am very aware of other businesses and how they treat their customers. I am making notes of how I want to handle my business matters in a Pay it Forward manner. I do not have to explain the details of treating customers the same way you want treated – we all have had bad retail experiences.
I still continually question if we, women, can really advocate, support, and mentor one another in the workplace? That is something that I will continue to explore with my BCKNGRUV-moms as time goes on….This week, I have decided to have faith in this issue!