We never ran out of toothpaste when I was a SAHM
List 1 –
Yesterday I thought it was grilled cheese day at school, and I sent my 7-year-old to school without a lunch.
Last night I went to brush my teeth, and we were out of adult toothpaste (kid’s toothpaste is awful).
Yesterday I skipped my workout, so I could enjoy a haircut in the middle of the day.
Last night I went to sleep with the dishwasher clean and full AND dirty glasses in the sink.
You ask – what is the purpose of this list? I am just taking inventory of my life after trading in full-time domestic goddess status to chase my mompreneurial dreams. When I was a SAHM, we NEVER ran out of toothpaste and I never got confused over the lunch schedule. My house ran like clockwork. I loved the feeling of everything operating on schedule; there was a sense of comfort in the routine of it all. NOW, do not misunderstand, there is nothing wrong with being a full-time mom, in fact, when my boys were little there was no other choice for me. With a husband who travelled weekly and my social work salary, the amount of childcare we needed placed us in the red. PLUS, the most important consideration, I adored being home with my babies.
Actually, I became so comfortable in the routine of being a SAHM that I was fearful to break out of the routine. As I explored my relaunch choices, I grew petrified of how I would make it all work. Then, I reminded myself that I was a scheduling queen, and I would just expand the spreadsheet in my head and make time for my plan. I had business ideas that I could not let go of, and now was as good a time as any…..because there was never going to be a RIGHT time.
I am happy with the results except when there are times that I forget to send my little guy to school with a lunch (I can suffer through brushing my teeth with kid’s paste). Yet, there seems to even be a growing-up lesson in this for my son. At 7 years old, he was able to tell the lunch lady that I forgot to pack him a lunch (she thinks I am a BAD mom), and he found himself enjoying a PB&J sandwich, veggies & dip, and a drink. So, while I am learning to accept not everything running like a well-oiled machine, my son is also learning to assert himself. It is a win-win.
List 2 –
Yesterday I firmed up plans for the next step in my prototype design process, and I discovered several material choices.
Yesterday I inspired other women entrepreneurs with my blog on StartupNation.
Last night I made a meatloaf for the family, and then I took the boys for a Rita’s Ice.
Last night I worked on my website business plan after the boys went to bed.
How about this list? This is the list of everything that I accomplished yesterday! Exciting – right? After making a list of everything that I was proud of yesterday, the lunch and toothpaste escapade seemed minor. My house is still somewhat running AND I am materializing my mompreneurial dreams. Not to mention, we (the boys and I) are all growing along the way.
The main point of this is not to say that being a SAHM is better than a WAHM or mompreneur or career mom, but rather to illustrate that at different points in our lives, as women, we can create new rules for ourselves. The trick is to breathe and accept our choices, and not to look backwards but only forward.
HEALTHY MOM TIP –> If you are experiencing what feels like a BAD MOM day, make 2 lists – one of all your so-called mess-ups and another of your accomplishments, this will help you gain perspective.
If all else fails, Do Not forget that tomorrow is a whole new day!