I added the sweetest little addition at the bottom of the post…..
After a long, hard winter that included my mom having major back surgery, losing my father-in-law, ongoing struggles with work/life balance, & a lot of cold weather, I really needed a little lift in my spirits. Hence the carb overload this morning.
I must say that my day yesterday was a huge boost! Yesterday was a simple day, yet just what the doctor ordered for me. Sometimes all we need is a little regular routine to feel back in the groove. When life gets too hectic, and we stray too far from our sense of balance…..a little sense of “normalcy” (what is that?) is the glue that puts it all back in order. Nothing super special, just good old-fashioned life.
Happy Monday Morning Readers! Yes, it is Monday…back to work, back to school, back to the grind. For moms, this is sometimes a relief after an exhausting weekend of playdates, activities, errands, cooking, and fingers crossed – a date night. I am particularly slow-moving today after a very stressful few days, and I am determined to have a tiny bit of fun and letting go on the blog today. Introducing a fun way to get rid of the stress —
Daily Life for moms is extremely hectic and often times, STRESSFUL. No shit, you say. I just wanted to make sure that we were on the same page. I have talked about relieving stress (yoga, exercise, all the usual suspects) before, but today I wanted to take a new angle. Today’s topic is SEX! Come on Backngroove-readers, I write about 3 topics: mommies, mompreneurs, and my work on lingerie-related products. The Sex Talk was bound to happen sooner than later.
It has been a roller coaster of a winter that began with my mom having major back surgery and ended with my father-in-law passing. I do not want to make this post all about the ups and downs of my life over the last few months, but rather about where my life will take me now. Beyond still supporting my mom, being there for my kids, and lending a shoulder for my mother-in-law to cry on…..I also really need to get my ass in gear with my mompreneur travels. Throughout the winter, I felt proud that I was still continuing to check items off my to-do list while dealing with the swell of personal crises surrounding me. Now that spring has sprung (I think – it is snowing a bit today), I am ready to forge ahead with a new attitude. Just like the sun will be shining daily (maybe), I plan to sparkle again in my pursuits.
I had several blog posts brewing in my mind for this week; my outlines were laid out and I was ready to go; and then shit happens. For the last 2 weeks, my adorable, fun-loving, caring father-in-law has been in the Intensive Care Unit fighting for his life. It has been a roller coaster of an affair with many ups and downs, and I have been treading water as fast as I can in order to keep up with everything. After all, I am a mom, wife, daughter-in-law, daughter, mompreneur, advocate for other moms & entrepreneurs, and community member. Sleep is in limited supply, but I have stayed up to date with my boys’ homework and science fair project, cheered on their team at basketball practices, cooked dinner, walked the dogs, participated in committee meetings, made some unreal progress with the prototype, and stayed on target with my blog and my weekly blog at StartupNation while praying for my father-in-law.
**Warning — Bitch Alert! (written late last night)
This afternoon I took a little “me” break, and I got a pedicure. It was such a nice hour: Quiet, Calm, Relaxing, and a Beautiful Outcome to boot. After that, it was pretty much a downward spiral. The rain was pouring down at school pick-up, and my son came out to the car and informed me that he hit his head on the concrete at recess. That was just the beginning. There was homework, dogs to feed, snacks flying everywhere, a report about some shenanigans at school, and my younger son realizing that he misplaced his itouch.
At this point, we are all in a frenzy looking for the itouch, talking about behavior expectations at school, trying to reach our cousin who is a pediatrician on the head smacking the concrete, and making our way through the 2nd grade spelling list. This is when announcing that everyone was putting on their pj’s, having dinner, and waiting for bedtime was appropriate. BUT, noooooooo…..I promised the boys that we would go see our local high school basketball team in round 2 of the state playoffs (45 minutes each way from our house).
Last Friday, our country woke up to the devastating news of the tragic earthquake and tsunami in Japan. For me, it was hard to concentrate on anything but the media coverage of this terrible natural disaster, and hoping and praying for the safety of those affected. It is in times like these, that we are thankful for the little things in life, and take pleasure in what we have around us. I took comfort in my 2 boys and the opportunities that are in front of them. The boys’ creativity, vibrancy, and outlook on the world is so reassuring. I decided to reflect a bit on these 2 mini-entrepreneurs.
A few years back when my older son was in kindergarten, I had a good friend that worked at his school. This friend lived right near a place that sold my fave low-fat brownies (I know – they were probably 1000 calories a piece, but that is another blog). It was a great set-up: my friend would get a week’s supply of low-fat brownies, put them in my son’s backpack at school, and I would have my most indulgent nighttime snack all week-long. It was my own personal low-fat brownie underground operation. UNTIL, one day in the carpool lane, I received a phone call from another mom saying she owed me money for the chocolate treat?!?!? I had NO idea what she was talking about until I pulled up further in line and my son got in the car.
Guess What? My son, who was 6 years old at the time, decided to turn the carpool waiting area into an entrepreneurial venture. He opened up the packs of brownies (2 per pack) and sold 1 brownie for a dollar each! At the time, there were still vending machines at school. so some kids had money for snacks, and for a few close friends, he issued credit. When I suggested that he return the money, he said “No Way!” He argued that the kids had their brownie and ate it, and it was only fair he keep the money. What he did not account for was that I was his financial backer with the brownies, and he would have to take the initial investment out of the gross (his first lesson in biz). This was the day when I realized that I was dealing with a kidpreneur.
My older son is lucky to have a little brother that is never afraid to speak his mind, thinks out of the box, and acts as a “profit coach” of sorts. Together, the two boys make up a great pair – one is very serious and “crosses every T and dots every I”, and the other brings the ingenuity and creative thinking. They appear to be on equal footing in their biz ventures because each one holds a different skill set, and they realize that! This is another valuable lesson in business for them – know your strengths and weaknesses and align yourself with someone who can fill your gaps.
A quick post today…..starting with a video! (I got a SONY bloggie camera, so I had to have a little fun with it….)
It is true ~ I am working on a post about what make a successful mompreneur (in my opinion), but I thought that I would just share my experience from yesterday. Yesterday was one of those days after school, in which I did have to be on a late afternoon webinar (damn west coast). I bartered with the boys for one hour of quiet. I promised that if they did their homework quietly and then went to play downstairs while I took the webinar – dinner could be takeout from the place of their choice. Guess What? It worked. Everything went seemingly well, and since I was not available – my older son even helped the little one with his homework! After the hour, we had much discussion on the dinner choices, and the boys settled on Mexican takeout. It ended up being fun for everyone! Success Story #1!
Being a mompreneur or a working mom means you have to balance a lot, and like I say in the video – we do what we have to do whether it means answering emails in the car line or Mexican takeout.
While I put the finishing touches on my successful mompreneur post ~ Share with me any success stories you have when needing your kids to cooperate as a mompreneur or working mom.