I’ve developed a new philosophy… I only dread one day at a time. ~Charlie Brown by Charles Schulz
A few weeks ago, I had some time to sit down with a mom-to-be, Jenny, and chat about what is on her mind. Due in April, this mom-to-be expressed two emotions – anxiety and excitement. The two feelings were very intertwined – there was excitement over the anxiety and anxiety over the excitement. Most of Jenny’s emotions center around the “unknown.” She was both nervous and intrigued (a bit) about the unknown.
Obviously, the baby-to-be would change Jenny and her husband’s lives. It is impossible for them to imagine what will happen to their current routine, existence, and established patterns. I did not want to spoil the surprise for Jenny, and it sort of is unofficial “mom code” to not tell. If we told new moms what to expect, it would strip them of all the crazy emotions that we went through. That would be unfair!
All this fear, anxiety, and excitement got me thinking……are these themes that cycle through a woman’s lifetime? I am definitely experiencing high anxiety over my entrepreneurial vision; forging ahead with my career while still doing everything I did before (nuts); leaving the fam to go to Spark and Hustle in L.A. for a few days; my mom’s recent surgery and ever-present recuperation; and who can forget how my week will go off its chartered path because of the impending snowstorm. Don’t get me wrong – there is definitely some thrill at the core of this, but right now it is manifesting itself as anxiety.
**editor’s note – I have a background in clinical social work, so every now and again – I have to throw out a term like “manifesting.”
Bckngruv-Readers – I am a planner (I know – no surprise to any of you). I like to map everything out, make lists, deadlines, timelines, and I could go on and on. Sometimes, this does not work out. There are times when everything is just too chaotic, to make exact flight plans (I like traffic metaphors – read this for more). However, it occurs to me that during these particular times when life is crazy and chaotic and so much is unknown, I tend to accomplish a great deal. I run around like a hurricane and just start cramming everything in to the 23 & 1/2 hours of the day that I have.
Pay it forward is a phrase that we hear quite a bit, but I take it very seriously in business AND life. I am a big believer in “treating others in a way that you want treated” because life does come full circle. I have talked about this in relationship to moms many times before. You may remember my crazy snow day vlog in which I suggest that moms offer to help one another when school cancels due to weather. In fact, recently, another friend and I set up a schedule for snow delays and helping one another with the kids. This is a result of Pay it Forward – for years, this mom and I have just stepped in and helped one another. Now, we felt dedicated to make a regular schedule!
As I prepare to launch my braduct in the coming year, I am very aware of other businesses and how they treat their customers. I am making notes of how I want to handle my business matters in a Pay it Forward manner. I do not have to explain the details of treating customers the same way you want treated – we all have had bad retail experiences.
I still continually question if we, women, can really advocate, support, and mentor one another in the workplace? That is something that I will continue to explore with my BCKNGRUV-moms as time goes on….This week, I have decided to have faith in this issue!
just a few words on the 1st ever wordless wednesday here – picked up a grande skinny caramel macchiato on my way to visit my mom in the hospital – aaaah! now time to prioritize!
At the end of 2010, many of my fellow women bloggers wrote fabulous bucket lists of what they wanted to do in the upcoming year. I was not that organized at the end of the year, and I was trying to avoid writing about new years resolutions in general. I did think about 2011 in terms of what I wanted to do in abundance, but now I have my bucket list!
On the previously mentioned lists, I added what I wanted to do in the comment section on several. At the top of my wish list for 2011 was taking my mom to Vegas. With so much going on, why would this be at the top of my list? Well, you have to read my list to find out!
Time – 5:00 a.m.
Have you ever been so excited that you cannot even get the words out? I am! I am not suffering from writer’s block, but rather an overflow of what wants to come out of my brain…A little crazy!! I always have A LOT to say about everything, but this time, I cannot organize the thoughts to create a blog. I considered shooting a quick video, but then decided that could become a long video of me rambling and rambling and rambling. Obviously, that would not be very EFFECTIVE. So, I am trying to organize the blog this morning, but I cannot say what time I will finish……I am “Bra-zilla” gone mad! (thanks again to a friend for yet another bra related nickname).
Time – 10:30 a.m.
I know that many of you have been waiting for the big reveal of the prototype, and I just wanted to bring you up to speed. I have had so many comments & questions: What are you doing playing with bras all the time?; Are you making a bra?; I wear a 36C; I wear an A cup; What is a “braduct?”; Can I See your prototype? So, here you go with some answers. Backngroovemom is working hard behind the scenes on lingerie-related products. At the moment, I am focusing on a bra related item. That is all I can say for now, but very soon our bra-related products will be available for test marketing! Who knows? I may call on YOU to test market.
This week also involved a quick shopping trip to Victoria’s Secret. We needed a few size B bras for “prototype playtime.” I took advantage of the moment to pick up a few items for myself. I have to put a little plug in for the new Incredible Racerback Demi Bra by V.S. I figured since I have been spending so much time in the company of bras, I would occasionally give a quick review. The Incredible Racer Back is a new style by V.S., and incredibly smooth. It is perfect for under a tight fighting shirt because it shapes smoothly without creating any lines. I have tried the Incredible Bra out, and it is now Backngroovemom- Recommended.
Which brings me back to the Backngroovemom “Braduct”…..Braduct evolved out of a conversation with my 10-year-old (JB) about my upcoming product. Yes, he did sign a non-disclosure, and we have not dared share any information with my 7-year-old (BB). If you know BB, you know that he cannot keep his lips zipped on anything. However, JB expertly identified that Backngroovemom was not creating a product, but rather a Braduct. Braduct is a very important piece of our marketing!
When I started writing the Backngroovemom Blog, I was not sure what direction it would take (I know – red flag). Now that the future of Backngroovemom is becoming clearer (very exciting details at a further date), the one point that remains clear to me is Backngroovemom is/was not a place for hubby obsessing. By hubby obsessing, I mean gushy, mushy, cutesy anecdotes about the hubs AND no hubby bashing. I have never been one for anything cutesy and this was a blog about mommies getting their groove back, therefore hubby bashing just seemed counterproductive.
All this being said, I could not help but to wonder this weekend “Does Backngroovemom equal Out-of-Groove-Dad”? I decided to spend some time thinking about this question and blogging my thoughts. For the small group of you who know my hubby, you know that he does his absolute best to stay out of social media…..could be interesting! When googling out-of-groove, I did not know whether I would find my husband’s picture (turns out that I did NOT), but I did come across this funny video of the Penguins of Madagascar being “out of groove”. Watch this – I will explain later…..
After a week that included one snow day, one 2 hour weather-related delay, my crazy attempt at a vlog, a mostly non productive Friday, and yes – no school this coming Monday…I felt the need to address the snow day discussion again. I will not spend a lot more time on it — just a few more thoughts. By the way, Backngroove Readers — did you ever notice that my background pic is the ocean? Guess what? I do not like snow! I know crazy…I should move, but my mom would miss me too much (and that is a blog for a whole different day). My groove was totally off track this week.
First of all, I am not the first to say this, but what is with the snow delay? We did not have snow delays growing up (I know – my grandmother used to walk miles to school), but honestly the delays are ridiculous. Not ridiculous because the school wants children to safely travel to and from school, BUT ridiculous because why is it not a priority for cities, townships, communities to make certain that roads are clear so buses and cars can take kids to school on time. As far as the cold weather goes — I cannot even go there because in reality how much does it warm up between 7 & 9 a.m.? Not much.
Last week, I received an email AND a phone message from two local moms that they were loving the blog. Awwww….they made me feel so awesome. What I could not believe was that the email stated that I was an inspiration. Me – an inspiration – no way! I could have floated to pick the boys up at school that day; I was on Cloud 9.
I started to think a lot about inspiration after this…..and, who inspires me. Turns out, I have a pretty lengthy list of celebrity and personal inspiration, so I decided to share just a few with you.
No surprise that my celebrity inspiration list begins with Mark Zuckerberg (I love facebook). Zuckerberg changed and continues to change the way we live, communicate, and interact while creating his social platform (he left Harvard without graduating to pursue his dreams)! I find it amazing when someone has such open-ended passion and vision. Zuckerberg is the type of inspiration that my boys’ generation and ones thereafter will continue to channel.
I have had a crazy week filled with business plan writing and office supply shopping. Woohoo! To quote Justin Timberlake, I am “Bringing Sexy Back” one office supply at a time. For me the theme of the week has been Need versus Want. When working on the sales plan for my upcoming braduct, I have been flushing out whether my product is a need or a want. Then came my trip to Office Depot to buy a file cabinet that I needed, but I also bought a fancy purple stapler and “backngroove” pink file folders (clearly a want). However, it could be argued that I needed these items. I did need folders and a stapler. Not necessarily the stylish ones that I bought, yet on the other hand, I am creating a brand. A feminine, lingerie-esque brand that possibly needed pink and purple office supplies. I know — keep telling myself that.
When examining Need versus Want in any aspect of life, business or personal, could it be that we convince ourselves that something is a need when it really is want? Can an item be both a need and a want at different times? I made a quick slide show of a major part of my life to examine this argument.